Elle and Ian: Still together and going strong
I bet you'd never thought I would say anyhting that would put you off doing Real Couples did you? well, not so much put off but inform you of the realities of your decision in case you are interested in taking your wants and needs to the next level.
Couples doing porn for the first time can expect it to be an exciting and liberated thing to do but it can also have explosive consequences of the dramatic kind if not thought through properly.
I was on facebook talking to the female half of a couple I shot way back in the early days. I will leave her name out of it as it wouldnt be fair to discuss something that was private but the topic was relevant.
This particular couple got into the porn industry and it was the beginning of the end of their relationship as they knew it. This was of particular concern to me because it pricked my conscience thinking that I was doing something that was destroying a relationship rather than liberating them. It turned out I did, if they just stuck to working together and didnt go all out in porn to make that money by working with other people.
To my mind, couples agreeing to do porn is an adventurous thing not unlike Bonnie and Clyde going on robberies and holding up banks then going to some sleazy hotel throwing the money on the bed giggling like mischievous delinquents as they shagged each others brains out silly so I delved deeper with my questioning to find I was in the all clear because the root of their problem was deciding to perform without each other being present.
Couples deciding to do porn are usually in love and exhibitionist enough to let other people see them having sex. Hell, some go out of their way to get caught knowing that someone is watching them getting it on and even more exciting if they know that someone is jacking off furiously watching them. Humans are so complex in that way.
Anyway, so back to this couple. They were married, got into porn with the full understanding it was work and even had a target amount of money to make £100, 000 was there goal and they were out for good back to their home country to buy a ranch and raise kids and never look back. The reality was, they exceeded this goal, went back home and then it all went to hell. They did more than just porn to meet that goal. Escorting, parties and generally anything that made money and brought them closer to their goal.
The boyfriend became a drug addict, the wife resented her fella for fucking so many girls, resented girls who enjoyed him and wanted extras after the shoot (this does go on), then they seperated and went their own ways but then over the years their feelings returned and are thinking of making a go of it again. She admits that the excess of their lifestyles were at the core of their love destructing the way it did.
Its not even as if they cheated on each other, which Im sure a lot more people could understand, or even fell out of love.
I think, if there is a moral to this story then it is if you do this as a couple, then dont sell out for the money. Be absolutely sure that both parties are ok with everything you decide to do. If either of you end up doing something as a threesome then this is ok but be mindful of your partners feelings too. Expect they will enjoy the person they are doing the threesome with because if you have any insecurities it could set in like cancer and rot out the inside of your relationship beyond repair.
So take heed. I dont act as moral guardian on these issues and maybe I should put up a legal diclaimer but feel this is not necessary as working with adults should also mean they are emotionally stable and mature enough to arrive at decisions like this by themselves
